A Role Model for Women Anywhere

I have had the privilege of being a colleague of Mrs. Al-Turki for twenty years and have known and been a friend of her husband, Khalid Al-Turki, even longer.

Sally and Khalid are many things, chief amongst which they are role models, to large numbers of people. To the legions of their admirers, they are among Saudi Arabia's most dedicated pioneers in the field of education. For most National Council on U.S.-Arab Relations' leadership delegations that have visited Saudi Arabia, no program is considered complete without a half day at the school they created and administer to the present.

As by far the largest number of participants in the National Council delegations are educators, it is sufficient to state that, without exception, none have come away from meeting Sally Al-Turki without saying that they know of few, if any, comparable institutions in the United States with a record that surpasses Dar Ahliyya, the school that she, her husband, and Fawzi Jamal, help to administer, in preparing the country's youth for higher education.

For many, Sally Al-Turki is as good and relevant a role model as any of what a person of vision, hard work, and creativity can do with their life. She is a living example of the adage that, with dedication, fortitude, and perseverance, it is possible for most mortals to bud, bloom, and blossom wherever they are planted. Teacher, planner, innovator, publisher, educational outreach specialist, indefatigable seeker of better and more effective ways to educate, train, and develop the leadership skills of youth, wife and mother - Sally Al-Turki is many people's person for all seasons.

The Saudi American Forum is pleased to publish her statement on what it is like to be a woman in Saudi Arabia.

John Duke Anthony
President, National Council on U.S.-Arab Relations

An American Woman in Saudi Arabia

Eternal God, You are the one God to be worshiped by all, the one called Allah by your Muslim Children, descendants of Abraham as we are. You have called forth people of faith in every time and place. Give us grace to hear your truth in the teachings of Muhammad, the prophet, and show your love as disciples of Jesus Christ, that Christians and Muslims together may serve you in faith and friendship. Amen

from the Presbyterian Book of Common Worship

Being a Woman in Saudi Arabia 
Dr. Sally B. Al-Turki 
Al Khobar, Saudi Arabia

Dear Friends,

So many friends in the US have asked me to write something about what it is like to be a woman in Saudi Arabia. That is a big question that cannot be answered in a word. Let me start, however, by saying that I have lived here now for almost thirty-two years and I don't think I could possibly be happier than I have been throughout this time. I feel completely fulfilled as a woman, as a professional, as a member of society, and as a person who is contributing to the development of that society. My relations with my husband, my extended Saudi family and with so many Saudi friends are warm and deep; I do truly love and feel loved and accepted by so many people that I have come to know over these thirty-two years.

Is life in Saudi Arabia different from that in the US? Of course, it is very different. Do I ever feel annoyed or frustrated by the limitations? Absolutely! Are there things I would like to see changed? Very definitely! But there are also things that I would like to see remain the same. For example, the strength of the family, the depth of friendship, the sense that one is never alone but can always find someone to help in times of need. As a mother, I was very happy that my children were not overwhelmed with images and movies that glorify sex and violence as a way of life - of course this is changing now as American media (Baywatch, Temptation Island, Robocop) has begun to dominate the airwaves all over the world. As a woman, I appreciate the fact that female bodies are not the instruments of marketing as they are in the US, plastered on every wall and screen. I have also felt secure because of the extremely low level of drug use and crime that we have known in Saudi Arabia. This is also changing, unfortunately, as foreign drug mafias have begun making inroads into the country and young people, caught between the old and the new, fall prey to their enchantments. But Saudi society acknowledges this evil and is searching for ways to combat it. There are many committees and organizations founded by Saudi men and women who are working to figure out how to introduce change while still retaining those good parts that so enrich Saudi Arabian traditions.

Let me tell you a little about what I am doing so you can see some of the kinds of work that is taking place. As you know, my husband and I founded what has become a well-known and respected Saudi Arabian school (Pre-K - 12 with more than 1700 students). I am the full time head of the girls' section with more than 800 students. In addition, I am co-director of a publishing company for books in Arabic to train educators and a center for offering training and consulting to other schools that are also trying to develop and modernize. I am also a founding member of a center for preparation of early childhood teachers. We prepare the teachers, develop and publish teaching materials, and send consultants out to offer training at other pre-schools all over Saudi Arabia. These activities comprise the main part of my work.

But there are other activities that I consider to be very important. For twenty-eight years, I have been a member of a women's philanthropic organization that has been trying to help women of all levels of society develop themselves. We also raise money and commit our time to assist needy families, children with handicaps, children whose fathers have died and others. For the past six years, I have also been a member of the founding board of another group of women who are trying to establish a new center for needy women and families. This center will offer a wide variety of services including a shelter for abused women or those whose husbands are in jail. It will also offer training to help women prepare themselves to find jobs as well as guidance and support for those who want to open their own small businesses.

In light of what we have all read about Afghanistan, I feel I should add a note contrasting the two countries. There have been many articles that have tried to make the case that the situation of women in Saudi Arabia is the same as in Afghanistan under the Taliban. If we are to believe the reports we have read about Afghanistan, however, it is really quite different. My description of my activities above - not unusual for educated, involved women here -- should be enough to clarify that. Saudi girls are going to school and to universities, and getting jobs in many places as teachers, doctors, nurses, social workers, etc. They are also writing in newspapers, managing their own businesses, controlling their own money, forming committees, and working to improve life generally and particularly for women and children.

One of the biggest areas of expansion these days is in the field of business. You may recall that the first wife of the Prophet Mohammed was a businesswoman and he was her employee before he became her husband. Many more women are opening their own businesses these days and there are now branches of the Chamber of Commerce specifically to respond to the needs of women in the three main cities. In one small example, our family business has just hired a Saudi woman to be in charge of marketing for our art gallery, hoping that she will be able to tune into the growing interest in art among Saudis, both men and women, artists and collectors. In summary, Saudi Arabia has a lot to work on but it cannot be compared at all to Afghanistan under the Taliban.

The vast majority of Saudis were shocked and saddened by the terrible events of 11 September, which were absolutely contrary to the principles of Islam. Especially horrifying for everyone here was the loss of innocent lives. Saudis are sorely grieved about the loss of innocent lives everywhere - in the US and in all the other countries, including Palestine, where it is happening on a daily basis.

As you can see, my life and that of my friends is very different from that portrayed in the American press. How sad that so little is understood in the US about the Arab world. I hope and pray that the day will come soon when Americans will come to have a clearer understanding of their brothers and sisters in the Arab world and that U.S. foreign policy will become more consistent with the principles of the America that I know and love.

Warmest regards, 
Sally